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When you invite a friend out with you, should you invite him because you want him to be there with you, or because you think he would enjoy it?
When a bunch of us are going out, and someone whom I've invited can't make it, I don't get disappointed about it (generally). One friend of mine said that when he wants someone to go with him, he is really disappointed when they can't. That he invited them because he wanted to spend the time with that person.
I think his attitude is fine - whatever works for him, but I got the impression that he thought I was very impersonal about it. That I didn't care for my friends (as much as he did).
When I plan an event, I invite people based on whether I think *they* would have a good time, not whether *I* would.
When a bunch of us are going out, and someone whom I've invited can't make it, I don't get disappointed about it (generally). One friend of mine said that when he wants someone to go with him, he is really disappointed when they can't. That he invited them because he wanted to spend the time with that person.
I think his attitude is fine - whatever works for him, but I got the impression that he thought I was very impersonal about it. That I didn't care for my friends (as much as he did).
When I plan an event, I invite people based on whether I think *they* would have a good time, not whether *I* would.
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A German doctor writes
Date: 2001-04-02 09:24 am (UTC)From:Vat you zhould do iss conzider every-vun as ein group. If ze groupp vil gel, your invitations correct are. Zis iss der holistic zhinking.
(clicks heels)
Auf viedersein!