do I care enough about my friends?

[low_delta]

When you invite a friend out with you, should you invite him because you want him to be there with you, or because you think he would enjoy it?

When a bunch of us are going out, and someone whom I've invited can't make it, I don't get disappointed about it (generally). One friend of mine said that when he wants someone to go with him, he is really disappointed when they can't. That he invited them because he wanted to spend the time with that person.

I think his attitude is fine - whatever works for him, but I got the impression that he thought I was very impersonal about it. That I didn't care for my friends (as much as he did).

When I plan an event, I invite people based on whether I think *they* would have a good time, not whether *I* would.

Comments

that is an interesting observation...

[shoo.livejournal.com]

Sounds to me like you have the healthier attitude...

I can only relate this question to my past...when I actually went out with friends...Ü
I would invite the friends who I thought would enjoy what I was doing.....
EXAMPLE: I went to a Peter Tosh concert in San Diego...I had an extra ticket so I invited my friend who enjoyed reggae as well....not my friend that was into hard rock.....that just made no sense to me.

Friends

[vlinker.livejournal.com]

I think people shouldn't wonder what their friends think and just be themselves. It might sound callous, but it isn't.

A German doctor writes

[banana.livejournal.com]

You are victim of ze binary zhinking. Zere are not two oppositen possibilities.

Vat you zhould do iss conzider every-vun as ein group. If ze groupp vil gel, your invitations correct are. Zis iss der holistic zhinking.

(clicks heels)
Auf viedersein!