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My kids loaded me up with books I wanted, and Trisha and Nancy lavished me with fancy caramels. (My tsundoku stack is again huge – but we’re not talking about that right now.)
On Sunday, my kids and I celebrated my birthday with our favorite pizza. I got our usual order. With 18% tip, the total bill snuggled in just under $100, but I don’t mind. It’s worth it to us.
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I also get a coupon from Abby’s for a free mini pizza for my birthday, so I’ll be making a return trip tomorrow. Actually, I have several coupons/offers for free birthday food – and they all expire on March 5, so I think I’m set for lunches for next week.
The month was too busy with the PDXWLF overload – but this is the last time, and next year Angel’s Month will be more relaxing. The trend is good. This year, I enjoyed being spoiled – a lot.
So I’ll never subscribe to Apple Music – and I manage my music library the way I always have since the days of ripping CDs and filling my iPod. I have too much music to download it all to my iPhone, so I sync only selected playlists and albums.
Years ago my playlists started getting corrupted. The songs were correct and played properly – but some (maybe half?) of the song/album cover artwork got randomly replaced by cover art from a different song in my library. It was super annoying – it’s been super annoying for years. But the music played fine, and I largely ignored it.
I had made a couple attempts to research a fix, the what I was told to do seemed like a horrid and dangerous pain – so I didn’t even make the attempt.
Today, though, I decided to research the situation again. I was a little more confident now that I’m armed with Kagi. I did a search for iphone music showing wrong album cover, and the top three results were immediately informative and useful.
So on my iPhone I went into Settings > General > iPhone Storage > Music > Edit > All Songs and deleted all the songs. Then I connected the iPhone to my Mac and resync’d all of my playlists – twice. (I’ve learned that I need to activate the SYNC action two times, and it’s the second time the app Syncs that the music gets transferred.) The Music app informed me that it was downloading 2000 songs to my iPhone.
When that was done, I checked my phone – and all album covers are correct! I’m very happy about this!
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I’m pretty happy with Kagi, too.
Woke up at 9:30 AM.
I bought a Black and Decker drill on Amazon plus screwdriver bits. I also signed up for an Udemy course on using a drill. Might as well learn to use it right!
The dogs don’t want to come in. Sigh. I really want to take a nap.
I’ve decided that I want “Time to Say Goodbye” played at my memorial service. (I’ve been planning it and will put instructions in my NokBox.) That song has been haunting me since the Olympics. And it has Italian in it!
Finally got the dogs in and fed us all. Nap time. Gracie: Bark bark bark bark. (Cat cat cat cat!) Me: Gracie, yes I know. Shut up!
Bella likes the larger Milkbones. I was leaving the box open for her to get them at will, but she’s eating too many of them. I need to stash them away. Somewhere. It’s a big box.
Hmm. I’m looking at Grand Prairie Friends for volunteering. But I need to wait and see if I hear back from the Humane Society and Park District before applying for something else.
Ate lunch. AccuWeather says that rain will start in two minutes. I want another nap. Overslept my nap.
I’m in shock over the strikes on Iran. We’ve messed with Iran before, and that didn’t go well, so let’s do it again! Plus, what happened with consulting with Congress? We already know that Trump thinks that he can do whatever whenever, but this is the most serious thing yet. (I had to dig for my outrage though because I mostly feel numb. My mom would be screaming though.)
Fed us all. Daily life meanders on. I want to go to bed early.
Thanks to
otter for sharing this video the other day: Emotional Neglect: Healing from the Hidden Trauma of What Didn't Happen
I got around to watching it and it hit me so hard I needed to write this huge long thing about it. It's mostly transcript of the parts of the video that I wanted to make a note of, because it's not very accessible to me otherwise. But my thoughts are sprinkled around the block quotes of course.
( Emotions Draw Our Attention to What Matters to Us )
( Shame, and Phobia of Inner Experiences )
( Unconscious Self-Abandonment )
( Using Emotions to Connect Your Inner World to the Outer World )
2) When we heard this news story on Wait Wait this morning, my partner said, "So it was Llama and Order" : https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/crime-fighting-llamas-catch-thief-by-surrounding-him-in-a-field-until-cops-arrive/
3) Americans now listen to podcasts more often than talk radio, study shows

What's interesting to me about this is that for a long time I had been reading articles about "when is podcasting going to break through". The surge in 2020 is unsurprising -- it's when a lot of people discovered podcasts, but then there's an immediate drop the following year. Meanwhile radio drops in 2020 because so many people listen to it mostly while commuting, which fewer are doing. ( Read more... )
4) Apparently we'd better prepare for a large wave of dementia patients in coming decades due to early wave Covid infections.
5) Had one of my best nights of bowling, at least in terms of outcomes. Normally my goal is just to break 100. I almost did so in game 1, did 114 in game 2, and 141 in game 3. This followed a 20+ minute delay when our lanes (which had been getting balls stuck all evening), stopped altogether and wouldn't lower pins. We were eventually moved to a different set of lanes to finish game 2 and do one of the fastest game 3s I've ever played. Paid off though!
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I started getting a migraine halfway through lift club this morning.
I ignored it of course -- just the aura, at that point -- knowing that I'd have a while before it got, y'know, debilitating.
I enjoyed the rest of the exercises. I did nearly fall both at the beginning and the end of the escalator I took to get from the tram to the train, oops. But also I got home fine, via B&M for medicinal snacks -- mostly sugar, which I often crave during migraines, but also one particular 59p instant ramen thing that I suddenly needed, and enjoyed very much for my lunch.
It was that rare rough day for the whole house: D's IBS was playing up and he had to make his brain work on paperwork so much this afternoon that when he finally emerged I wondered if migraines were contagious (luckily he perked up a little after eating something). V slept through all their alarms and so has been off-kilter all day. I slept for four hours this afternoon and after that reached the point where I felt okay unless I tried to move or even think too hard.
Then we watched a Starfleet Academy episode and as soon as Sam mentioned Our Town I was like ...you come to me, on the day of my migraine, and now I'm gonna have to cry? (Crying is fine but a physically unenjoyable experience for me at the best of times. Which, we've established, today is not.) (I got a tear in my eye, but even that was only at the very end.)
Like I've said here, Our Town is largely responsible for why I write almost every day here. "I can't look at everything hard enough" fucking haunts me (of course we heard that line in the episode), and it's important to me to look at things as hard as I can while they are happening.
tl;dr: People are actually bad at predicting how much they'll enjoy reading back what they've written about their lives! Writing about the ordinary experiences of your life can be even more cheering to you when you go back and read them than the extraordinary ones.
A nice reminder on an excessively ordinary day.
I slept like ass again, but if I'm gonna wake up at 6am it was nice to wake up to good news: the obvious bigots of Reform didn't win, and the more normie bigots of Labour didn't win either -- the Greens won!
I don't really care what this means for Labour or Keir Starmer -- it has never in my 20 years of living here made much tangible difference who the Prime Minister is -- I'm just glad to have an MP who might not be totally useless because I've had enough of that the last couple years! We've had a functionally useless MP in Gorton and Denton since Gwynne lost the Labour whip and his ministerial post but kept voting along with Labour anyway. Worst of both worlds: he couldn't really advocate for us any more but still voted like he would've before. Not that he was much use as public health minister: my hopes were high when he first got the position, especially as he was open about his Long Covid (which I think ended up being why he had to resign on health grounds), but he was a real disappointment to people I know who have ME or LC who'd also expected him to help, and he wasn't interested in advocating for clean air in public places or anything that would help with the ongoing pandemic, and my attempt to explain to him the public health implications of transphobia-as-policy (like the totally-predictable spike in teen suicides) didn't get anywhere either.
And more widely, of course, this is making some people feel more hopeful than we have in a long time. My queer and community-defense group chats were full of relief, congratulations to the volunteers we know who knocked on doors and did other thankless work for this (in the rain! even for Manchester it's been rainy lately), and a little bit of giddy meme-making.
There's all kinds of speculation now on what this means for the upcoming local elections in England (and devolved government elections in both Wales and Scotland, but they get to have nationalistic parties to vote for there too), as well as for Labour and Reform and so on.
But for now, there's a lot of hope in a lot of people who didn't have much (I caught a link to this video and watched it before I realized it's Owen Jones, heh), and that is a great gift.
The discussion post will go up on March 31st, 2026. If you think of any questions while you're reading, leave a comment on this post and I'll include it in the discussion post.
Chapters: 1/1
Fandom: Star Wars Prequel Trilogy
Rating: Explicit
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Relationships: Obi-Wan Kenobi/Anakin Skywalker
Characters: Obi-Wan Kenobi, Anakin Skywalker
Additional Tags: Virgin Obi-Wan Kenobi, Loss of Virginity, First Time, Coming In Pants, Oral Sex, Intercrural Sex, Anal Sex, Rimming, Infidelity, Identity Porn
Summary:
Obi-Wan celebrates becoming a Jedi Master and Anakin's knighting by thoroughly ridding himself of his virginity with Anakin's assistance; Obi-Wan mourns the loss of his padawan and consoles himself with several partnered orgasms. Anakin contributes to both sets of emotions.
The current forecast is for a Sunday overnight temperature of 6°F, however, so it isn't suddenly spring.
This winter I have been noticing that my cuticles are in rough shape. Almost on cue, NPR wrote a story about nail health, with tips for improvement, including information about cuticle management. I don't know about you, but I hadn't realized that fingernails are more water-permeable than skin! The article helped me to appreciate that I probably need to do even more to keep my nails and cuticles moisturized as compared to what I've been doing to keep my hands moisturized in general. So far the general skin on my hands has been in better shape this winter compared to previous winters because I've been more consistent about applying lotion, but as I noted, that hasn't seemed to help my cuticles.
So I found a recipe for homemade cuticle oil this week and mixed up a batch this afternoon, and now hopefully that will help. My DIY blend includes sweet almond oil, jojoba oil, sunflower oil, some Vitamin E, and a small bit of lemon verbena for scent. Most of the ingredients I already had lying around from the days when I used to make my own lotion; I gave up on that lotion-making a year or two ago after finally finding premade lotions I actually like.
Meanwhile, Saturday morning was devoted to rowing. We had a pretty intense workout that involved crab walks and squats and pushups and other things, done with a teammate in a relay that included a series of 6-7 500m pieces. After the rowing, I went over to the boathouse to work on the latest of the neverending boathouse projects.
First, satisfyingly, the plaques that I glued magnets onto stuck to the boat shed's support beams successfully:

This is really good because it means I can now figure out how many more rare earth magnets I'm going to need, and finish that darn project for once and for all! I had tried testing the strength of the magnets by putting the plaques onto my refrigerator, but they didn't stick to the fridge very well even after I added on a ton of magnets. So it was good to learn that it takes fewer magnets to get the plaques to stay attached to the thicker steel of the boathouse beams.
It's also time to start reassembling what we call the "bubble dock." We took it completely apart last fall so as to be able to reassemble it to spell something out, instead of having it consist of a random mosaic of black and gray pieces. Let's see if you can figure out what it now spells:



We use this as something of an auxiliary dock to our main dock, but it takes on a particularly important role in the early spring before we get our main dock put out. This is really just the first part of reassembling it, but it's an important part because each piece is supposed to line up with its neighbors in a specific order for everything to go together correctly. Next, we'll put in the connecting pins to lock the pieces together. But it's probably best to wait until the snow under the pieces finishes melting before we try that step.
And it's going to be a couple more weeks before we actually put it out on the river.


This has been a long winter, and it definitely isn't over yet.
I spent a lot of the first half of the month travelling, and the second half of the month recovering from the travelling while also working. I feel this video reflects those two halves pretty accurately.
1. What made you happy this week?
I managed to knock out a fair amount of tasks at work, and also achieved some monthly goals (planning for upcoming trips/birthdays). Feeling accomplished is good.
2. What made you sad?
I can't say that I've felt particularly sad over the last week, but I've been doing a lot of continued grieving over work and personal life changes in the last year.
3. What made you angry?
The news—from Kansas, from Minnesota, from EPA, from Iran, from everywhere. I'm so tired of terrible people being terrible.
4. What are you looking forward to in the next week?
My SO has a birthday next weekend, and we'll be celebrating that as best we can.
5. What are you not looking forward to?
My daily work is a bit of a slog right now, and it's hard to stay mentally motivated and engaged.
( Pork and hominy soup )
( Sausage, White Bean, and Kale Soup With Besar )
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