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Interesting column.

“If your morality is all tied in with God,” she continued, “what if you, at some point, start to question the existence of God? Does that mean your moral sense suddenly crumbles?

Obviously, not every religious person's convictions are based on fear, and will therefore crumble when you give up your belief, but I'm sure there are a lot of people who feel that way.

This echoes what the criminology field has documented for more than a century — the unaffiliated and the nonreligious engage in far fewer crimes.

http://www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-oe-0115-zuckerman-secular-parenting-20150115-story.html

More children are “growing up godless” than at any other time in our nation's history. They are the offspring of an expanding secular population that includes a relatively new and burgeoning category of Americans called the “Nones,” so nicknamed because they identified themselves as believing in “nothing in particular” in a 2012 study by the Pew Research Center.

The number of American children raised without religion has grown significantly since the 1950s, when fewer than 4% of Americans reported growing up in a nonreligious household, according to several recent national studies. That figure entered the double digits when a 2012 study showed that 11% of people born after 1970 said they had been raised in secular homes. This may help explain why 23% of adults in the U.S. claim to have no religion, and more than 30% of Americans between the ages of 18 and 29 say the same.

So how does the raising of upstanding, moral children work without prayers at mealtimes and morality lessons at Sunday school? Quite well, it seems.

Far from being dysfunctional, nihilistic and rudderless without the security and rectitude of religion, secular households provide a sound and solid foundation for children, according to Vern Bengston, a USC professor of gerontology and sociology.

For nearly 40 years, Bengston has overseen the Longitudinal Study of Generations, which has become the largest study of religion and family life conducted across several generational cohorts in the United States. When Bengston noticed the growth of nonreligious Americans becoming increasingly pronounced, he decided in 2013 to add secular families to his study in an attempt to understand how family life and intergenerational influences play out among the religionless.

He was surprised by what he found: High levels of family solidarity and emotional closeness between parents and nonreligious youth, and strong ethical standards and moral values that had been clearly articulated as they were imparted to the next generation.

“Many nonreligious parents were more coherent and passionate about their ethical principles than some of the ‘religious' parents in our study,” Bengston told me. “The vast majority appeared to live goal-filled lives characterized by moral direction and sense of life having a purpose.”

My own ongoing research among secular Americans — as well as that of a handful of other social scientists who have only recently turned their gaze on secular culture — confirms that nonreligious family life is replete with its own sustaining moral values and enriching ethical precepts. Chief among those: rational problem solving, personal autonomy, independence of thought, avoidance of corporal punishment, a spirit of “questioning everything” and, far above all, empathy.

For secular people, morality is predicated on one simple principle: empathetic reciprocity, widely known as the Golden Rule. Treating other people as you would like to be treated. It is an ancient, universal ethical imperative. And it requires no supernatural beliefs. As one atheist mom who wanted to be identified only as Debbie told me: “The way we teach them what is right and what is wrong is by trying to instill a sense of empathy ... how other people feel. You know, just trying to give them that sense of what it's like to be on the other end of their actions. And I don't see any need for God in that.

“If your morality is all tied in with God,” she continued, “what if you at some point start to question the existence of God? Does that mean your moral sense suddenly crumbles? The way we are teaching our children … no matter what they choose to believe later in life, even if they become religious or whatever, they are still going to have that system.”

The results of such secular child-rearing are encouraging. Studies have found that secular teenagers are far less likely to care what the “cool kids” think, or express a need to fit in with them, than their religious peers. When these teens mature into “godless” adults, they exhibit less racism than their religious counterparts, according to a 2010 Duke University study. Many psychological studies show that secular grownups tend to be less vengeful, less nationalistic, less militaristic, less authoritarian and more tolerant, on average, than religious adults.

Recent research also has shown that children raised without religion tend to remain irreligious as they grow older — and are perhaps more accepting. Secular adults are more likely to understand and accept the science concerning global warming, and to support women's equality and gay rights. One telling fact from the criminology field: Atheists were almost absent from our prison population as of the late 1990s, comprising less than half of 1% of those behind bars, according to Federal Bureau of Prisons statistics. This echoes what the criminology field has documented for more than a century — the unaffiliated and the nonreligious engage in far fewer crimes.

Another meaningful related fact: Democratic countries with the lowest levels of religious faith and participation today — such as Sweden, Denmark, Japan, Belgium and New Zealand — have among the lowest violent crime rates in the world and enjoy remarkably high levels of societal well-being. If secular people couldn't raise well-functioning, moral children, then a preponderance of them in a given society would spell societal disaster. Yet quite the opposite is the case.

Being a secular parent and something of an expert on secular culture, I know well the angst many secular Americans experience when they can't help but wonder: Could I possibly be making a mistake by raising my children without religion? The unequivocal answer is no. Children raised without religion have no shortage of positive traits and virtues, and they ought to be warmly welcomed as a growing American demographic.

Phil Zuckerman is a professor of sociology and secular studies at Pitzer College and author of "Living the Secular Life: New Answers to Old Questions."

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Date: 2015-01-20 05:25 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] ravenfeather.livejournal.com
I think there are two important reasons this is so. First, they are not being told by a supreme being how to act, think and feel, they are figuring it out for themselves. As the Debbie person pointed out "you don't need god to teach a child empathy, to teach them out the other person feels". I also think a lot of religions, ... ok, let me rephrase that, a lot of the INTERPRETATION of religions by man are based on hate, and seclusion, and that does not create an open minded accepting person.

Date: 2015-01-21 06:26 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] low-delta.livejournal.com
While there is a certain amount of feelings built into a person at birth, I think that it's easy to train kids out of their empathy. You can teach them that though they feel bad for other people and their circumstances, they don't have to act.

Date: 2015-01-21 08:42 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] ravenfeather.livejournal.com
Hmm.... that is not really training out of their empathy IMO, that is training them to not act on it. Empathy is a feeling, and those always exist. Yes, they can be buried, or suppressed, or repressed, but they never go away but are hidden. Trust me, from a position of KNOWING, those feelings are never really GONE, and can come back to the awareness at the most non opportune times.

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Date: 2015-01-20 02:32 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] likethebeer.livejournal.com
I would have hoped that atheists are more moral, but it's one thing to think it; it's another to get proof on it. It would have hoped for it because of a hope of empathy (but I'm agnostic & really empathetic so of course I'd want to think in my favor).

Date: 2015-01-20 05:27 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] sirreal13.livejournal.com
That's very reassuring. I often describe myself as a "church-fearing" Christian ( and an agnostic). It's good to see that the world hasn't fallen apart, as a result of the "nones".
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Date: 2015-01-21 06:21 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] low-delta.livejournal.com
I don't understand how all that eastern stuff is non-Christian. Well, sure it's not a Christian practice, but it's not anti-Christian, or belonging to another religion. I've heard of people being against yoga, since it's Hindu or something. What? It's not Hindu. It's not religious. It's just a thing you do. That's like saying you don't want to drive a car, since they were invented by Christians.

Date: 2015-01-22 03:47 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] zitronenhai.livejournal.com
I wasn't raised in a particularly religious household. We were vaguely Lutheran. I did grow up more or less believing in God, though, I guess, and I had my brief stint as a fundamentalist baptist when I was thirteen. When I stopped believing in God, though, it never occurred to me to wonder whether it might be fine to turn evil. My morals have never really changed. I am essentially a very moral person, and I always have been. They've become more nuanced and more informed, but I think that has come through maturity, over time.

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