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What is it about moving that causes stress for some people and not others? And why is the split almost always along gender lines?
I helped my friends, Phil and Laura, move on Saturday. Phil was a bit worried, when we started loading, that we wouldn't get everything in one truckload. That was all. Laura was so stressed when she got up in the morning, that she became physically ill. Shortly after we started unloading the truck (first load) she and I went to pick up the pizzas. I assured her that everything was going very well, and that made her feel better. By the time we unloaded the truck completely, she was so stressed out that there was nothing I could say to make her feel better. She would barely acknowledge that I had spoken. Phil was so sick of her constant negativity that he was not very careful of what he said to her, and that didn't help her stress level any. Throughout the move, Phil was busy and he didn't have time to be very laid back about it, but I wouldn't say he had a high stress level.
What was Laura worried about? That things would break? That things would get lost? That she wouldn't be able to find anything for a week? That she was going to be unpacking for a week? I mean, yeah, those things are all true, but why get upset about it? Just deal with it. Like when we were loading the truck, Phil was worried we'd have to make two trips, but all we could do was load it the best we could, and hope. Which translates to: keep working and don't worry about it.
And why are the women like that, and the guys like this?
I helped my friends, Phil and Laura, move on Saturday. Phil was a bit worried, when we started loading, that we wouldn't get everything in one truckload. That was all. Laura was so stressed when she got up in the morning, that she became physically ill. Shortly after we started unloading the truck (first load) she and I went to pick up the pizzas. I assured her that everything was going very well, and that made her feel better. By the time we unloaded the truck completely, she was so stressed out that there was nothing I could say to make her feel better. She would barely acknowledge that I had spoken. Phil was so sick of her constant negativity that he was not very careful of what he said to her, and that didn't help her stress level any. Throughout the move, Phil was busy and he didn't have time to be very laid back about it, but I wouldn't say he had a high stress level.
What was Laura worried about? That things would break? That things would get lost? That she wouldn't be able to find anything for a week? That she was going to be unpacking for a week? I mean, yeah, those things are all true, but why get upset about it? Just deal with it. Like when we were loading the truck, Phil was worried we'd have to make two trips, but all we could do was load it the best we could, and hope. Which translates to: keep working and don't worry about it.
And why are the women like that, and the guys like this?
