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I was so mad at my dad yesterday.
On Friday, he had some drywall delivered to his new gallery. Twenty sheets of 4x8 and ten sheets of 4x10. They didn't (wouldn't) carry it inside for him. Well you can't leave it sit outside, so he panicked. It was one o'clock, and he didn't know of anyone who was free to help him carry it, so he carried it in the building by himself. He should not have carried *any* of that by himself. He's 57 years old! I wouldn't carry a sheet of that stuff unless I absolutely had to. I certainly wouldn't carry thirty sheets! I'd leave it sit outside until evening, until I could find someone to help. All you'd have to do is buy a sheet of plastic to cover it in case it rained.
But the thing is, *I* could have helped him! He should know that I can leave work anytime. The gallery is like five miles from where I work, and I can leave work anytime. He should know that. But he was too panicked. He didn't even call his wife. There's no way he could have known that she wasn't busy that day, but you'd think he would have called her to see if she could help him figure out an option. Or at the very least, complain to her about it.
He said he couldn't move his arm the rest of that night. Then yesterday, while we were building walls, his back was bothering him so much. Did I mention he had rotator cuff surgery on his shoulder three years ago? I get tired of hearing him groan every time he moves.
He never slows down. He never stops to think that this is hurting him too much. He just thinks that he's gotta keep going or it will never get done. He doen't realize that if he doesn't slow down it may never get done, either.
On Friday, he had some drywall delivered to his new gallery. Twenty sheets of 4x8 and ten sheets of 4x10. They didn't (wouldn't) carry it inside for him. Well you can't leave it sit outside, so he panicked. It was one o'clock, and he didn't know of anyone who was free to help him carry it, so he carried it in the building by himself. He should not have carried *any* of that by himself. He's 57 years old! I wouldn't carry a sheet of that stuff unless I absolutely had to. I certainly wouldn't carry thirty sheets! I'd leave it sit outside until evening, until I could find someone to help. All you'd have to do is buy a sheet of plastic to cover it in case it rained.
But the thing is, *I* could have helped him! He should know that I can leave work anytime. The gallery is like five miles from where I work, and I can leave work anytime. He should know that. But he was too panicked. He didn't even call his wife. There's no way he could have known that she wasn't busy that day, but you'd think he would have called her to see if she could help him figure out an option. Or at the very least, complain to her about it.
He said he couldn't move his arm the rest of that night. Then yesterday, while we were building walls, his back was bothering him so much. Did I mention he had rotator cuff surgery on his shoulder three years ago? I get tired of hearing him groan every time he moves.
He never slows down. He never stops to think that this is hurting him too much. He just thinks that he's gotta keep going or it will never get done. He doen't realize that if he doesn't slow down it may never get done, either.
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*Pats hand and frowns*
Date: 2001-04-02 07:34 am (UTC)From:Ms Mausi, knowing that the chances are good she'll be equally stubborn in her old age.Hopefully someone will care as much as you do for your Pop.
don't be to upset...
Date: 2001-04-02 12:05 pm (UTC)From:I am going through this with my parents also...
My Father refused to ask for help....but now that he is 70, he is allowing us to help him....
My Dad tells me that it is just to hard for him to ask for help.
It has something to do with accepting that they are getting old....
It is a very painful thing to watch as well as be caught up in.
hang in there Kev.....
It is nice to see how much you care for your Pops, I say just let him know how upset you were and that it would make you feel good to help him....
Re: don't be to upset...
Date: 2001-04-02 12:30 pm (UTC)From:I guess he's going to stay home (and build something there).
57 - old?......
Last December, I bought lunch for the man I work for on his 80th birthday. He is quite active, business-wise and other-wise. Every other afternoon or evening, you can find him hiking or snowshoing on one of his trails in the mountains adjacent town or if the weather is suitable, he's be out soaring in his sailplane. Never, ever let age be the sole reason why someone should not be doing an activity.
When my grandfather was very ill, hospitalized for months, one thing that kept him going was the thought that he had work to do. He had a book cabinet to finish building for my grandmother plus numerous chores to attend to about the yard and house. One day, when I was visiting, he mentioned that my grandma had talked to him by phone that day......and that she had allowed my cousin to finish the cabinet and that this and that were being done about the place by so and so. I could see there was no wind in his sails. He was quite sad because he figured she didn't need him. No one intended to make him feel unneeded, it just happened.
Re: 57 - old?......
Date: 2001-04-02 04:14 pm (UTC)From:I certainly wouldn't say he acts "old."