That is hard, because there really is a dividing line between giving someone the option to sink or swim on their own and watching them drown, or helping them...and helping and helping and helping... Personally I'm pretty damn bad at that line, usually on the helping side, which makes me frustrated and feeling bitter. I do agree with the guy on the bottom that it's important to tell your friend that you're worried and you care, and that you think he's hurting himself or herself. Part of friendship is gently kicking them in the ass when they need it. (Gently!)
Like I said, take my advice with a grain of salt, I'm not so hot at this myself, so how can I tell someone else what they should do?
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Date: 2001-03-21 09:41 am (UTC)From:That is hard, because there really is a dividing line between giving someone the option to sink or swim on their own and watching them drown, or helping them...and helping and helping and helping... Personally I'm pretty damn bad at that line, usually on the helping side, which makes me frustrated and feeling bitter. I do agree with the guy on the bottom that it's important to tell your friend that you're worried and you care, and that you think he's hurting himself or herself. Part of friendship is gently kicking them in the ass when they need it. (Gently!)
Like I said, take my advice with a grain of salt, I'm not so hot at this myself, so how can I tell someone else what they should do?
Love, Ms Mausi.