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2020-03-01 11:34 pm

Enneagram

From a survey meme... What’s your Enneagram type? https://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/test Test 1 is more comprehensive, but long. Test 2 is pretty accurate and much quicker.

I'm type 1. This is totally me.

Enneagram Type 1 - The Reformer
Perfectionists, responsible, fixated on improvement

People of this personality type are essentially looking to make things better, as they think nothing is ever quite good enough. This makes them perfectionists who desire to reform and improve; idealists who strive to make order out of the omnipresent chaos.

Ones have a fine eye for detail. They are always aware of the flaws in themselves, others and the situations in which they find themselves. This triggers their need to improve, which can be beneficial for all concerned, but which can also prove to be burdensome to both the One and those who are on the receiving end of the One's reform efforts.

The One's inability to achieve the perfection they desire feeds their feelings of guilt for having fallen short, and fuels their incipient anger against an imperfect world. Ones, however, tend to feel guilty about their anger. Anger is a "bad" emotion, and Ones strive sincerely and wholeheartedly to be "good." Anger is therefore vigorously repressed from consciousness, bursting forth in occasional fits of temper, but usually manifesting in one of its many less obvious permutations - impatience, frustration, annoyance and judgmental criticality. For this reason, Ones can be difficult to live with, but, on the high side, they tend to be loyal, responsible and capable partners and friends.

Ones are serious people; they tend to be highly principled, competent and uncompromising. They follow the rules and expect others to do so as well. Because they believe so thoroughly in their convictions, they are often excellent leaders who can inspire those who follow them with their own vision of excellence. Reform movements are frequently spearheaded by Ones.

Ones are often driven and ambitious, and are sometimes workaholics. But whatever their professional involvement, they are definitely active, practical people who get things done. They are natural born organizers, listmakers who finish everything on the list, the last one to leave the office, the first one to return, industrious, reliable, honest and dutiful.

The relentlessness of their pursuit of the ideal can make Ones tense people who have a hard time relaxing and who unnecessarily deny themselves many of the harmless pleasures of life. They tend to be emotionally repressed and uncomfortable with expressing tender feelings; they generally see emotionality as a sign of weakness and lack of control. They are seldom spontaneous. They have multiple interests and talents however; they are self-reliant and seldom run out of things to do.

Ones are often intelligent and independent and can easily mistake themselves for Fives, but unlike Fives, Ones are primarily people of action, not thought. Ones tend to worry and are prone to anxiety and can sometimes mistype as Sixes, but they are far less affiliative than Sixes and their standards are not reached by seeking consensus with a group. Finally, the relentless pursuit of perfection can take its toll and lead to depression. At such times, a One can mistype as a Four. But Fours have a tendency towards self-indulgence whereas Ones are self-denying. Fours are emotionally expressive; Ones are emotionally constrained.
low_delta: (serious)
2017-07-07 09:17 pm
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ten traits of intimidating people

This is one of those almost-clickbait "articles". As such, I hate to say it sounds like me, but it does. And I wouldn't have brought it up except it seems to have been a common subject lately. I was talking with my dad recently about how we find that a lot of people are afraid of us. I've known people who said that when the first met me, they had no idea what to make of me. It took them a while to "get" me. A cousin at our family reunion likes to talk about how intimidating she is (she was a schoolteacher). This time she had some stories about how some kids chose to trust her in spite of that. So after having these discussions, the article caught my eye.

On the other hand, some of these are like, sure, who doesn't feel that way?

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The world we live in is full of people who judge us. They know nothing about us. Some do not even know our names, but they judge us all the same. We should not let the words or actions of these people bother us, We are who we are not who they think we are. Has anyone ever called you intimidating?

Sometimes intimidating people come off as rude or even ‘evil’ for the way they react to things. Those around them fail to see the kind person behind the tough exterior and it can cause issues from time to time. I have found that the most intimidating people are also the most caring when you get to know them.

The 10 most common traits I have noticed with ‘intimidating’ people are as follows:

1. Your word is good.
Honesty is something that you value big time. If you say you will do something you always follow through.
[Yes]

2. You are straightforward.
You always speak your mind and do not care who gets upset. Lying is never an option.
[Yes]

3. You are open minded.
You are open to new ideas and always willing to try new things. This allows you to achieve success through any opportunities that you are willing to take.
[Somewhat]

4. You create solutions.
You focus more on the solution than the problem. You don’t make excuses and you just get things done as you should.
[I'm very solution oriented. I'm the stereotypical guy who offers unsolicited solutions.]

5. You are strong-willed.
You are focused and will go to extra lengths to make something happen.
[Yes, but maybe I don't set my sights too high]

6. You do not like people who complain.
Complaining is something that makes you mad, you would rather work alone than with someone who spends the whole day complaining. You don’t have time for their shit and will not pick up their extra weight without letting them know where they can shove their complaints.
[Yes. Also, see # 4.]

7. You do not tolerate willful ignorance.
You are open minded, yes, but you will not entertain anyone who is judgmental. You will either walk away from them and their ignorance or lose your patience with them and let them have a piece of your mind.
[Yes]

8. You are wise.
You are always learning new things and new ways of thinking. You think things through and never waste time. You are wise beyond your years.
[I like to think so]

9. You do not like small talk.
To you, small talk can be a bit annoying. You do take the time to deal with it often and would rather be sitting alone. You only want to partake in conversations with meaning. If someone cannot have a real, deep and meaningful conversation with you then most likely they do not even converse with you at all.
[Yes!]
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2016-08-24 09:19 pm
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traditions and addiction

Here's something I wrote ten years ago. I made only one tiny change.

I don't have many addictions. Or habits. Or rituals or traditions.

They bother me. I don't like being held prisoner by something that doesn't necessarily make sense. I don't smoke. There's no little thing I always have to do just because I always do it. For example, I don't care for the idea of always sleeping on the same side of the bed. I lose a small bit of control of myself when I find myself relying on something being a certain way.

If I do something the same way every time, there should be a good reason for it. I always drive on the right side of the road, because to do otherwise is not worth the fines. I take that back - I don't always drive on the right side of the road. Um... I follow very closely a certain routine in the morning because that's what gets me out of the house the fastest. I sit in the same place at the table every night because Cyn always sits in the other place. I always undo my seatbelt before turning the car off, because then I won't have my keys in my hand when I'm trying to undo the buckle.

Wedding receptions? I hhate wedding receptions. Too many things you have to do just because everybody expects them. You have to toss the garter. And you have do the chicken dance. And Steve has to have the DJ play "Another One Bites the Dust." And you have to mash cake in each other's faces. And you have to kiss when everyone rings their glasses. Of course, many people will say that these things aren't done just as traditions. You do all that stuff because it's fun. Well... yes and no. They survived as traditions because a lot of people thought they were fun, but the reason we do them is because we have to. And if we don't, we are questioned.

Christmas is full of traditions and rituals. Not for me. Christmas is nice because there are decorations and we get together with the family, but for me there's no it just isn't Christmas without...

I'm not completely immune. I'm sure I have some habits that are for no good reason, and that I don't notice or have forgotten about. And I have had my own little traditions (I used to always play Crosby Still & Nash on shuffle. Why? Just because I always did), but I can't think of any current ones. I'm sure Cyn will remind me. And I am addicted to the internet. I just can't turn off the computer.
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2013-08-07 12:31 am
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ambiverts

I've always considered myself an introvert, but noticed in recent years, that I do like spending time with people. It just requires energy. So here's the article about people who are right in the middle, on the line between introversion and extroversion. I wondered where on the continuum I fall. I was guessing about 60 to 75% introversion, but this (not very in-depth) article lists a bunch traits in the middle ground that I seem to have nailed.

http://diplateevo.com/2013/06/on-ambiverts-why-distinguishing-between-extroverts-and-introverts-is-inadequate/
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2012-01-02 11:44 am
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Myers-Briggs

ISTJ - "Trustee". Decisiveness in practical affairs. Guardian of time-honored institutions. Dependable. 11.6% of total population.
Take Free Jung Personality Test
Personality Test by SimilarMinds.com


Introverted (I) 66.67% Extroverted (E) 33.33%
Sensing (S) 55.81% Intuitive (N) 44.19%
Thinking (T) 73.53% Feeling (F) 26.47%
Judging (J) 59.26% Perceiving (P) 40.74%

Cyn thought I was an INTJ. I'm not really sure. ISTJ seems to be all about the rules. I'm not completely there with the rules. It's important in society, that most people have rules to follow. I'm definitely not a fan of traditions.

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