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a case for parental disinvolvement
When I was a kid, I played baseball for a summer. My mom didn't come to my games. I didn't care. I was playing baseball. It was my time. Mom was around when I was home. Now, you don't go by a playing field without seeing all the parents gathered around, cheering for their children. Seems like a good thing, but when these kids need to get a way from their parents, where do they go? Do the kids have any structured activities or do they just hang out at the mall or on the street and get in trouble?
And why are the parents there? Just because all the other parents are there? Because that's their only time with the kid? Because they're really interested?
And why are the parents there? Just because all the other parents are there? Because that's their only time with the kid? Because they're really interested?
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i know i didn't always want the pressure of having
MY folks around when i was doin' schtuff like soccer and the like
and they weren't there for the most part~ just for "special" games~
Parents are judging each other all the time these days
Personally, I think you'd be hard pressed to find a kid who cried because Mommy wasn't there to see him/her hit a homerun. All he/she really needs is the cheers and back slaps of team mates and coaches. Isn't it kind of fun to retell your happy story over and over...first to Mom and Dad when you get home, and later to other people who weren't there to see it?
It matters to kids that their parents are involved and interested in what they do, but I agree with you...it's been blown waaay out of proportion. Kids need recreational time away from their parents, not just academic time away.
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I would purposely not tell my mother about most of the choir shows until the night of, if I need a ride. I didn't want her to be there all the time. I wanted to be on my own a little. And I liked it. It didn't hurt me at all.
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I loved to watch my kids play and practice baseball...I was the one to drive them so I just hung out until it was time to get them home. We used to get pizza after games and make a good time out of it.
When my kids joined golf, I started to go for the same reasons...I really do love to watch the kids play (but from a far) now I just drop them off with some $$ s they can hang out and be kids.
I found that a lot of kids were sad and felt left out when their parents did not go...
I guess it depends...
slap me now...
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But the point of kids needing structured time to themselves is an important one, I think. Some of them do just fine, though. It depends on the kid, but that kid is not the most common kind.
Thanks Birdy - ooops! I mean Shoo!
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I liked having my parents there because I felt like someone cared :) Of course, my dad used to coach my soccer team, so that wasn't usually an issue.
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And, yes, it's a shame that far more stuff for kids these days is structured in a way that requires parental supervision. But much of that is due to serious problems relating to both adult and juvenile crime. Kids are simply no longer free to hang around most neighborhoods without a parent there, as we were when kids. Even just walking to school, even in a relatively low-crime suburban neighborhood, is not something most parents are willing to let their young children do, as we did. I was quite young when I walked a mile with a friend to the nearest shopping area, and not much older when I took public buses, but I doubt I'll let The Kid do the same until she's considerably older.
However, on the other hand, improvements have been made to structured activities as well, both for pure fun as well as for educational purposes. So it's not all bad.
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hi, i'm david, and i come to you through majorweather (http://www.livejournal.com/~majorweather)'s journal.
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Hi david!